The power of the spoken word can damage people more than any weapon or fist. And often those words can be unrepairable. Let me encourage you instead to build your family members (and friends) up and only speak kindly of them in public. I guarantee your spouse and children will notice. And it will fill them up with an enormous amount of pride and security. Life is tough enough without having our own close family members and friends tear it down for us. "Public praise, private criticism" And to this day, it is the best lesson that I have ever been taught. ~Lessons Learned In Life